Issues surrounding adult survivors of childhood abuse, the pressure to forgive, family estrangement, premature forgiveness, forgiveness, and reconciliation.
Were You Expecting to arrive at Heal and Forgive? If so you were re-directed to my new blog.
The Heal and Forgive blog was born out of the publication of my first book, “Heal and Forgive.” I am happy that the blog has been helpful to a robust readership.
After my publisher recently went out of business the book was re-released under the title, “Mother, I Don’t Forgive You,” which is more in keeping with the premise of the book. I decided to re-title my blog along with the book.
I hope you will continue to peruse the posts and join in on the various discussions including our right as survivors to decide our own healing journey, with or without forgiveness.
The back story on the title change can be found on the post directly below:
Featured Post
Mother, I Don’t Forgive You – Why the Book and Blog Were Re-Titled
In 1992, after nearly a decade of trying desperately to forgive my mother, my life was spinning out of control. Not only had I failed at f...
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Guest Blogger
I am honored that Michele invited me to be her guest blogger this week.
Thank you Michele!
My guest post on Survivors Speak is available here.
Thanks!
Nancy
UPDATE: You can view Michele's follow-up post here.
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Healing from my role as the family scapegoat was one of the last steps that fell into place on my healing journey. I had many more immedia...
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In 1992, after nearly a decade of trying desperately to forgive my mother, my life was spinning out of control. Not only had I failed at f...
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I've always had difficulty with mourning. Often, when I find myself entering a new phase of healing, such as with my current life transi...
i just read your comment on michele's blog about forgiveness and i really appreciate what you had to say. i always had people urging me to forgive wayyyy before i was ready to do so. what you say on your blog really resonates with me, that healing must take place first. i look forward to reading more of your blog. thank you~
ReplyDeleteThank You Mountainmama,
ReplyDeleteI just visited your blog and I am taken by the authentic way you share your story!
Thank you for stopping by and for your comments!
thank you for your kind comments about my blog, and for reading it :)
ReplyDeletebut especially thank you for writing your perspective and experience~ really, no one has ever put so well my thoughts. it's so comforting. i have already told a few people about it. your view is so healing and compassionate. so non-pushy. so validating. allowing for the anger and the space needed to heal. i've struggled with the issues of forgiveness and cutting off from people (and written a few posts about those issues). felt guilty about taking that space, and setting those boundaries i felt were necessary to heal. i did so on instinct. but your words affirm that i did all this with good reason. and i too have felt the the powerful healing that taking that space allowed. and certainly the powerful healing that validation provided. how it helped me feel i wasn't crazy at all and my emotions were all completely valid. i'm so glad you've had this experience as well.
i'm so glad i found your writing! thanks again~ :)
Dear MM,
ReplyDeleteI’m glad you’ve freed yourself from your guilt and given yourself permission to heal no matter what it takes – you deserve no less.
thanks! i definitely give myself permission to heal as my instincts indicate. but i wouldn't say i'm entirely free of the guilt...at least not yet! :D
ReplyDeleteMM ~ You will be!
ReplyDeletethanks for the encouragement! i definitely thinks it helps to envision a future self free from negative thought patterns :)
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