Were You Expecting to arrive at Heal and Forgive? If so you were re-directed to my new blog.

The Heal and Forgive blog was born out of the publication of my first book, “Heal and Forgive.” I am happy that the blog has been helpful to a robust readership.

After my publisher recently went out of business the book was re-released under the title, “Mother, I Don’t Forgive You,” which is more in keeping with the premise of the book. I decided to re-title my blog along with the book.

I hope you will continue to peruse the posts and join in on the various discussions including our right as survivors to decide our own healing journey, with or without forgiveness.

The back story on the title change can be found on the post directly below:

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Mother, I Don’t Forgive You – Why the Book and Blog Were Re-Titled

In 1992, after nearly a decade of trying desperately to forgive my mother, my life was spinning out of control.   Not only had I failed at f...

Thursday, April 3, 2008

Sometimes, it’s Okay to be Selfish

Contrary to popular belief, healing required stepping out of my abusive relationships, out of the desire to forgive and to become “selfish,” focusing on myself and on what I needed.

Selfish didn’t mean self-centeredness. It meant taking my focus off of that which diminished me and placing it on that which gave me hope and a future.

During the most tenuous part of my recovery, it was important for me to build a strong healing foundation. In the ensuing years, I often found myself thrust back to my foundation with an uncompromising resolve to put myself first in this process no matter what losses putting myself first required.

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